An Engaged Life
Dealing with Prejudices
of Another
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A person with prejudices believes in their reactive and negative impressions of a group of people as the truth of those people.
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Listen to see if the person expresses a view that shows a whisper of empathy.
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Does the person with a prejudice convey a few words of empathy for those subjected to suffering of war and famine?
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Do not express views opposite to the one who is intolerant/prejudiced/sexist/anti-refugee/anti-Muslim/racist etc. You will intensify the views of other.
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Your eyes do not leave the eyes of the other. Your voice is lower than normal.
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If you argue, you will reinforce the self-righteousness of the other.
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Never raise the voice or speed up speech unless you want the person to become ever more intolerant.
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You do not interrupt the stream of prejudice.
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Let the person speak if he or she wishes until the person runs out of words. Stay very still and upright.
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Remember to keep all your questions short and to the point. Do not waste a word or a sentence. Do not explain your position. You are only interested in their views.
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Your departure leaving the other with an appreciative note may leave the person with prejudices engaging in reflection on their own attitude.